Pregnant&Teens
From the day I told people that I was pregnant, I got
nothing but two –facedness, lousy part-time friends with a side order of dirty
looks. I constantly got asked “will you cope?”, “are you sure you want it?” (
it, is a baby that is depending on me to bring it life) and my favourite one “your
life is over before it has begun.” <<<< All lies!
Pregnancy was awful. Everyone lies even the book published
on what to expect. Glowing, silky smooth skin , hair and Do not forget everyone
looking after you, and running around, it was horrific. The only benefit I got was hair that grew like the old Disney princess Rapunzels.“You will sigh with happiness for no
apparent reason but the idea of becoming a mother. “ Nanny- 101 Dalmatians ,
the quote maybe true at times especially when you first feel butterflies and that first strong kick and turn. They will be a bond no greater., However the professionals , well everyone forgets to tell you, early mornings due
to a quick boot to the tummy and your
feeding for two whether you like to or not. Morning sickness if you are having an unlucky pregnancy. Restrictions, warnings pregnancy feels like applying for your driving licences. Don't do this, don't do that. you will watch all your
friends have fun at parties, bowling and ice skating , and eventually they will just forget about as the the bump starts to show(walking hazard).
Eating for two? that is a myth you never eat for two in the sense of food intake. Food? No it is a very strict diet, no more than 1 can of tuna a week. (How ridiculous is that?, how did the older generations cope). Oh then there is the constant planning around a quick trip to the toilet, your exercise is cut down to walking (not bad for some), you feel fat (even though it is not fat) and self-conscience, (i found maternity clothes more for my grandma age, than mine... so I constantly lived in leggings and maxi dresses). …..
Birth, one million dollar question. If it is not bad enough, trying to think of names and get everything prepared for the trip home from delivering. You get asked a million questions, on whether who will be there at the birth ( likes its a show) and they expect you to be around those two people constantly, and be around just encase the baby wanted to come early. But then they ask if you want to breastfeed, what type of birth you want. Then, what sort of pain relief do you want? my mind was blown, my first child, my first pregnancy. I was expecting help, and comfort, not stupid questions. What if the circumstances changed? then what, my whole birthing plan was out the window. So you may all cuss and shame me, but i never believed in planning a birth, I took it one step at a time.
Birth is nothing compared to after birth. However the soreness, pain, sleep deprivation, constant agony of your body healing contemplates the new baby. It still shocked me, it was not what I expected, I thought after I gave birth my body would go back to normal, and that was everything done. Apparently not, Can you remember in year 4, when you use to wear bras, and stuff tissue down there to fill the empty space? Well I never had thought I would be doing that again. There was milk constantly leaking from the breasts (whether you breast fed or not), so you had to constantly changing breast pads. Breast milk stinks so your still self conscious even if you constantly change those pads.
What was the most difficult part of breast feeding, is I never got much help, it was just expected, I was expected to do it naturally. So when I started not coping, and I was getting all worked up because it hurt so much. I though I was starving my baby, I thought my baby only wanted me, because I was basically meals on wheels. So if I had a second child, I would do my best to find the right help, instead of feeling so low. Anyway moving on then there was a two weeks constant periods, always getting a friends to check out your behind encase you have done the unthinkable and leaked !!!*Squeals* . The back ache, and the constant pain of your body pulling it back together. Remembering to eat, and take it easy while you healed? no that was never me, the next day I left the hospital and walked to town every day after that. In all fairness when you look at your little parcel, you will never feel a stronger bond of love until you have had your first child, all that shock is worth every second when you realise your bundle of joy.
Eating for two? that is a myth you never eat for two in the sense of food intake. Food? No it is a very strict diet, no more than 1 can of tuna a week. (How ridiculous is that?, how did the older generations cope). Oh then there is the constant planning around a quick trip to the toilet, your exercise is cut down to walking (not bad for some), you feel fat (even though it is not fat) and self-conscience, (i found maternity clothes more for my grandma age, than mine... so I constantly lived in leggings and maxi dresses). …..
Birth, one million dollar question. If it is not bad enough, trying to think of names and get everything prepared for the trip home from delivering. You get asked a million questions, on whether who will be there at the birth ( likes its a show) and they expect you to be around those two people constantly, and be around just encase the baby wanted to come early. But then they ask if you want to breastfeed, what type of birth you want. Then, what sort of pain relief do you want? my mind was blown, my first child, my first pregnancy. I was expecting help, and comfort, not stupid questions. What if the circumstances changed? then what, my whole birthing plan was out the window. So you may all cuss and shame me, but i never believed in planning a birth, I took it one step at a time.
Birth is nothing compared to after birth. However the soreness, pain, sleep deprivation, constant agony of your body healing contemplates the new baby. It still shocked me, it was not what I expected, I thought after I gave birth my body would go back to normal, and that was everything done. Apparently not, Can you remember in year 4, when you use to wear bras, and stuff tissue down there to fill the empty space? Well I never had thought I would be doing that again. There was milk constantly leaking from the breasts (whether you breast fed or not), so you had to constantly changing breast pads. Breast milk stinks so your still self conscious even if you constantly change those pads.
What was the most difficult part of breast feeding, is I never got much help, it was just expected, I was expected to do it naturally. So when I started not coping, and I was getting all worked up because it hurt so much. I though I was starving my baby, I thought my baby only wanted me, because I was basically meals on wheels. So if I had a second child, I would do my best to find the right help, instead of feeling so low. Anyway moving on then there was a two weeks constant periods, always getting a friends to check out your behind encase you have done the unthinkable and leaked !!!*Squeals* . The back ache, and the constant pain of your body pulling it back together. Remembering to eat, and take it easy while you healed? no that was never me, the next day I left the hospital and walked to town every day after that. In all fairness when you look at your little parcel, you will never feel a stronger bond of love until you have had your first child, all that shock is worth every second when you realise your bundle of joy.
25th August 2013, at 04; 11am, I gave birth to my
daughter, Sienna Wilson, weighing 7lb 12oz, natural birth, no happy gas or injections or water birth <<<< Crazy. I will admit, the pictures aren't
exactly the best, I look stoned, and wrecked But give some break, However they are my favourite memories.
The time flies by, so be sure to live every second with your
child. Yesterday Sienna was born today my daughter is ten months old, and my
god she has a pair of lungs and mouth, she never shuts up. I would not have it any other way. I miss her being
dependent on me, she crawls, feeds herself, and already she’s trying to dress
herself. It is too much for a parent to
take in. Although now I get kisses and hugs willingly, she chooses to wobble along to me. I have already had so much fun
with her, I cannot wait for more to come.
She takes after me (bet you every parent says that), she creative, and some people may call me harsh, because i do not let my child watch more than one hour of television a day, but it has allowed her to develop much faster.
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When you become a parent there is just one rule that applies to all, " There is no such thing as a bad parent" as long as you try you hardest, and the child is content, that is main thing.
I am always told that sienna is advanced for her age, ten months old already walking and speaking certain words, finally full head of hair.
(as seen in the picture to the right). We always have creative days, which includes her in one of mine old t-shirts full of paint and baby first crayons.... Most of the time she ends up painting her self instead of the A1 piece of paper.
So the outline of the post, is yes being a parent is demanding and hard at times, but it is rewarding in so many ways. I would not change a thing . I struggle juggling university, a job and being a full time mother, but it is manageable. When I became pregnant, teenage mothers already had a bad representation ' slut', 'Alcoholic, smoker' , 'hard time partier', ' On every benefit going' , 'doing absolutely nothing there life'. It may not seem important but it was this representation that gave me the strength and determination to make a go at my life, Sienna was part of my world, she was the destruction of my life. She was an addition, a god send, i just involve her with my new plans. University is because I get easily distracted by sienna when I am suppose to knuckle down on my university work, but hey at least I can put my hand up and say she is worth every minute of my time.
when you become a parent, your unsociable apparently. Which is ironic because i am never in the house, i constantly go for a wander to the town, take her to classes, swimming and play areas as-well as parks. I probably do more exercise now than i did when i was in secondary school being made to do p.e. Being a parent at any age is difficult, the age does not give you experience, You could read every book on parenting, and still be shocked at how hard or easy times can be. So find your own way of parenting, it is what i did, and i found so much easier and simpler.
What I found hard, is the underlying test, All your 'friends' go through it, but only a few or none pass it. The hardest bit, is losing those friends that you thought the world of, . I never felt so alone in that time. My daughter is my best friend, and so are my family.
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I am always told that sienna is advanced for her age, ten months old already walking and speaking certain words, finally full head of hair.(as seen in the picture to the right). We always have creative days, which includes her in one of mine old t-shirts full of paint and baby first crayons.... Most of the time she ends up painting her self instead of the A1 piece of paper.
So the outline of the post, is yes being a parent is demanding and hard at times, but it is rewarding in so many ways. I would not change a thing . I struggle juggling university, a job and being a full time mother, but it is manageable. When I became pregnant, teenage mothers already had a bad representation ' slut', 'Alcoholic, smoker' , 'hard time partier', ' On every benefit going' , 'doing absolutely nothing there life'. It may not seem important but it was this representation that gave me the strength and determination to make a go at my life, Sienna was part of my world, she was the destruction of my life. She was an addition, a god send, i just involve her with my new plans. University is because I get easily distracted by sienna when I am suppose to knuckle down on my university work, but hey at least I can put my hand up and say she is worth every minute of my time.
when you become a parent, your unsociable apparently. Which is ironic because i am never in the house, i constantly go for a wander to the town, take her to classes, swimming and play areas as-well as parks. I probably do more exercise now than i did when i was in secondary school being made to do p.e. Being a parent at any age is difficult, the age does not give you experience, You could read every book on parenting, and still be shocked at how hard or easy times can be. So find your own way of parenting, it is what i did, and i found so much easier and simpler.
"Age does not give you parenting skills, No matter what age you have your first child at, The experience is still the same"
What I found hard, is the underlying test, All your 'friends' go through it, but only a few or none pass it. The hardest bit, is losing those friends that you thought the world of, . I never felt so alone in that time. My daughter is my best friend, and so are my family.
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