Do you ever feel like you are constantly under attack from
your miniature armies? You go to the toilet and all of a sudden you see
their fingers sliding underneath the door? Or how about you run a bath for yourself;
you go to wash your hair and then BAM! There are now three in the bath. 
I will be honest, sometime I just so fed up of having no ‘me’
time, and no time to chill. Before having children I thought it was my right to
have private moment? Are you laughing? It is funny right? What an unrealistic
expectation! Sometimes I would try and
put the children to bed after some hugs, milk and a bed time story…..It all
goes to plan until it is time to sleep? 
Before I became a parent, I expected my
future children to fall asleep instantly without any help. I expected them to handle their emotion by themselves.
To never whine or ‘cry’ for no reason….. Little did I know back then that my
children would teach me several things! I have come to learn; these moments of your
children needing you will not last forever. I have come upon the answer that
fits every situation, every whine, cry, and the moments they ‘seek’ you out…..
Sometimes they just need you.
It is as simple as that. Sometime they do just need you.
What you have to think about is becoming a parent has so many super powers…. Especially everything that is considered
comfort. Who would have thought you could stop a massive tantrum by cuddling it
out and getting down to their level and spending a couple of minutes to talk
about their emotions? In the present it
may seem that those times happen all too often and can drag…..but all you have
to do is blink and your 6 month old teething baby is now a toddler who is independent.
You may get annoyed because you need to make this doctor’s appointment
and you child want an extra minute hugging. Take the offer! Because like I have
said it will not last forever, at some point they will become rare---and
offered as little as possible…..because they are growing up. So take the time to listen to them and they will return the favour and be thankful! I never thought at 11pm I would be getting a check-up...... but following through with this request it put her mind at rest knowing I was only a little bit poorly. You need to pick your battles!
After a hard long day at work, sometimes I need those five
minutes to chill and recharge…..but you know who else need that time to
recharge? Yes you have guessed your children, school or nursery is just as
exhausting. Why can’t you’se spend it together?
I may be criticised by ‘gentle’ methods of parenting, but I do
not care. I do not smack, because I do not want my children to fear me. I do
not scream, because I want my children to know they can discuss anything with
me. I will lay with children in bed whether it is mine or there’s until they
fall asleep, because I am there protector, whether it is from their overactive
imagination, or whether they have missed me. I will continue to take some time
in the middle of tantrums to explain the situation and discuss their feeling.
Also if I was wrong to act in a particular way I will apologise and we will
work together to better both of our behaviours. It may seem small to us but
they need help understanding…. Lack of control may scare them, I know It scares
me . Sympathise with them it will help make things click into place. So I will continue
to take the time to understand and comfort my children even though sometimes I really
do want those few minutes alone because
Sometimes they just need us!
so take a deep breath and enjoy the love!
You have got this momma!
From a momma still learning!
