Autism is not a parenting fail!

 Autism is not a parenting fail! 

Treating your little HUMANS with respect and care is not a parenting fail. Getting down on their level, sympathising and helping them understand and work through their raw emotions is what any decent parent/person should do.

Giving them boundaries but allowing them to express themselves is not being a shit parent. Its allowing them to grow up in a way that they will soar from. They will learn the natural consequences and learn to communicate rather than withdraw and fear being told off. It allows the child to reach out when they are in need of help. You are their safe space. That is what I WANT and that is what i GET.

Autism is not a child being difficult/naughty!

I never thought in a million years I would have to state it.  Then again, I never thought in a million years I would have to comfort my little boy because he has heard certain words/phrases from his ‘loved one(s)’.  I never thought my wild, care free, loving little boy would be exposed to such negativity. 

And yet he has.

He complained of not feeling very well – but I knew it wasn’t a physical illness.  I wrapped my arms around his little body, and he put his head over my heart. We sat still.

‘ Mam I’m the naughty one aren’t I?  I heard them mam - i heard them say a lot.’

My heart dropped and broke into little pieces.

My heart ached for him.

Because although I and others love every inch of him and show him this on a day to day basis. Others have nuclear blasted his light out with just a few words that should never have been said, and that he shouldn’t have heard.

Why?

Because they choose to be ignorant, lazy ,closed off and judgmental. They choose to compare him. They choose to ignore his contagious laughter, his honesty, his loving and caring character, his energetic 100mph personality and his colourful vision on the world.

Yes it is exhausting (metally and physically),and it can be hard but you know what? I am so fucking proud of him. I am proud of my self - because i know im doing a way better job than how you brought your children/child up!

So as I’ll cuddle him that little bit extra, build his self esteem and confidence back up and love him ---ALL of him.

I shout out to you FUCK OFF.

Because we don’t need you or your negativity.

You will be the one losing out – not us. 

Love

One pissed off Mamma Bear

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